Living with chronic illness means minimizing the things in your life that make your symptoms worse. Sometimes, it might mean eliminating people, especially if they stand in the way your happiness. Other times, it means recognizing the ways in which you can minimize the effect of toxic people on your health and your life.
Generally speaking, a person’s actions are toxic to your health if their behavior makes you feel bad and/or sick on a regular basis. Patterns of toxic behavior that are bad for your health include:
- Intimidating you by yelling or being violent in any manner;
- Consistently putting you down and sending a message that he or she is better than you.
- Regularly telling you what he or she feels is wrong about you.
- Gossiping about you behind your back.
- Spending too much time complaining about others, his or her life, or you.
- Attempting to take advantage of your kindness.
- Making you feel guilty if you don’t do what he or she wants or expects.
- Making you prove yourself often. Healthy relationships are give and take. But if you are doing all the giving, you jeopardize your health and happiness. Learn to put your foot down and don’t excuse toxic behavior. You deserve to surround yourself with people who love and accept you and who make your life easier by simply being in it.
- How do you preserve your health after you have identified people who are toxic to your health? The answer depends on the relationship that person plays in your life. In some cases, it is not possible to remove these people from your life but you can find ways to deal with these people without hurting your health.
Read more about managing toxic relationships at: http://www.arthritisconnect.com/arthritis-articles/594-recognizing-and-dealing-with-toxic-people-in-your-life#itrQUHlxErSmwXhy.97